Monday, January 21, 2008

Zooey 'n The Seeds of Love.

I was speaking with some friends over the weekend at different times of the various in’s and out’s of romance. Yes, all of them were (are?) single, so, y'know, it’s on our minds now and again. It got me to thinking of this kind of stuff all over again, like I don't do it enough. Add a contemplative Sunday evening to that and a loud Chris Isaak album (don't judge me) to drown out the drumming on the wall next-door and, you know? It makes this kind of thing dangerous.

When I speak of the want of love, I feel it’s largely because I’ve yet to add it to my life in a way that I’m pleased with or feels right. I have certainly felt it in spurts (both romantic and otherwise, sure), but it’d be nice to have it last longer … like, I dunno, the really good kind of gum does. Gimme the extra flavor and extra fun already. Believing I might come across it one day is that driving thing that keeps me moving on, trying on new things and risking getting dumped and sidestepping flames burning out and saying “yes” to being set up and spending a small fortune in dates and everything that goes with that. Once I find someone to conjure up those kinds of emotions with, it’d be nice to be able to keep that alive a while—a lo-o-ong while, even. They say the real love comes later, so I’d just like enough of it up front to know I want to actually build to a later.

Think of what I could do with my time once I found that person. That whole silly hunt would end and I could stop craning my neck every time a sideways glance or an accidental eye-lock felt like something more. I could throw all that energy and those ideas and such at one person and be all the happier because of it. Doesn’t that sound nice? I’m a fan of that happening, no matter what other single people’s theories tout otherwise. Don’t tell me your sign doesn’t gel with mine or hold on to old fears that keep you from taking a fascinating new journey or dissect your past baggage/issues as your reasons for singlehood for the umpteenth time. (And, if you're reading this, please ... this isn't an invitation for more unwarranted advice from the peanut gallery, either.) I just want something I can sink my teeth into is all. After all, I’ve been patient enough.

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On a semi-related note, I’d like to call foul on M. Ward for being the one to scare Zooey Deschanel out of hiding. It’s not fair. I’ve waited for her to release something in the form of an album for eons now but, well, he strides in, likes what he hears and, just like that, they’re releasing an album together (calling the project She & Him - Volume One, out in March on Merge). On the one hand, I’d like to thank him personally. If it had to happen with anybody, I’m glad she picked him to help make the indie kids happy. On the other, I’d have to refrain from punching him in the face. Why? He’s got plenty of good in his life already. I mean, it should have been me.

Sure, I’m not as a good a singer as he is and, no, I don’t write the songs that make the whole world swoon and I’m not from a place as cool as Oregon and I don’t wear baseball caps so low, it’s difficult to see, but, you know, I’d like to have been in his shoes at that moment (and all the moments thereafter that include her). I’d like to have been in that recording studio as Miss Deschanel spoke to me, using nothing but those impossibly big, impossibly gorgeous eyes. Given the right amount of time, I’m absolutely certain we could have found some of that lovestuff together. After all, considering I’ve already fallen in love with her hundreds of times, I ought to know.


Download M's and Zooey's "You Really Got A Hold on Me" here

13 comments:

Auntiemame said...

i find your blog intriguing...mostly b/c i think it is unusual for a guy to not just be after the "hunt." to even think of life beyond that deserves kudos. so kudos. and kudos for being a zooey fan.

plainoldsarah said...

ah, if ONLY i could think of some good peanuts to throw. either way, thanks again for a good reflective entry and MUSIC. very nice.

ewesa said...

whoa good song! sorry, but their voices go exceptionally well together.

Dainon. said...

No need to apologize for the beautifulness of their blended voices. They match. Circle gets a Square!

Laura said...

I love you and hope you find true, brilliant love for yourself.

Sara said...

I want to love somebody too.

Sherpa said...

thanks for the entry. I hear ya about the love thing, and about Zooey. I'm straight I swear, but I love her too.

sir mister landlord sir said...

When I watched that blasted Sci-Fi Tin Man Series deal, I did not fall in love with Zooey. In fact, I did not fall in love with anyone. That's all.

Ashley said...

Patience is overrated. Zooey is great, though.

chloe elizabeth said...

I like it.

The McGuffin said...

Dainon, I'm with ya on the love quest. I'm 38 and maybe once has there ever been a true and lasting spark between me and another women. No rah-rah speeches from me, I get those on a weekly basis from my friends, but I really do believe that meeting "the other half" is pure luck and timing.

PS I'm also stealing that picture of Ledger for my blog...what a loss.

Moonbird said...

Hmm, I love the honesty too much. Thank you for sharing.

So Dainon my new friend, I suppose I pegged you all wrong. I thought you were way into your swinging single life and you were just living it up with dates and women left and right.

And yet, like me, it's possible you have both going on. One side of you loves the joys of being single, the other loves the idea of a long relationship. Hmm? From what you wrote here, perhaps that's more true.

Mellie said...

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