Tuesday, May 13, 2008

A little bit of feel good goes a long way.

You know how when some ex-something finally gets engaged to his or her current-something-or-other and the ex-something—the one from a long time ago, the one who doesn't have much to call his or her own at the present time in the way of a solid romantical interest—you know how they're supposed to get all down and shed some tears and wallow in the depths of despair for a spell? Yeah, I'm not so into that scene. I'm more prone to buy them a blender (send them a congratulatory e-mail) and happily dance long into the night at their eventual reception (eat too much cake and leave without standing in the long wedding line of huggers and hand shakers). I can't recall ever being that sad guy. I don't think I ever want to be him. The way I see things is that, if it never worked out with that person in the first place, why be unhappy and morose once she's found a guy who it does work with? It makes no sense. The heart may have got plenty confused and leapt around a bit when you ran into her over the years in the past, but, well, the past is just that. It's over with.

That said, I think there's something in the water around these parts. First dates are lasting half a day or more and ending in first kisses. Friends are acquiring girl and boyfriends like mad. But, more than that, I think I hear of someone getting engaged almost every day. A barrage of friends (close, distant and otherwise) have taken that step, a cousin sent me her invite yesterday, my little brother seals the deal with his wedding about a month from now ... it's as if this crazy sunshine has suddenly made the whole lot of them take that first giant step towards the rest of their lives. Eh, whatever it is, it's good. I'm a big fan of that whole love emotion.

7 comments:

k8 said...

seriously. there are five wedding announcements on my fridge right now. and everyone who isn't gettin' hitched is giving birth.

Sarita said...

Amen. Although I sometimes feel left out, I am generally all for my loved ones being loved.

I know plenty that find it hard to be happy for even friends that have taken that step (no romantic history involved). Apart from the occasional fleeting twinge of bittersweet-ness, I don't quite get that.

SJ said...

I think I know the couple you are talking about (I know L and D like "this"). They are combined forces of awesome. But I know what you mean. It's like you know everyone seems to think you are supposed to feel all weird about it, but really if it's right for them then it's alright with you, too.

Mellie said...

Our marriage prep class is bigger than sunday school. No joke. I love it. It just gives me hope. If they can find a needle in a haystack, so can I.

Tamara said...

This is so great! I was just telling my friend Ansley that it seems as if NO ONE is getting married this year... thus wondering about the odds for the rest of us.
Maybe your friends' trends just needs to waft this way.

Loralee said...

Blenders are cool, but have you seen those new ice-cream makers?

Vikki Miller said...

It is actually the sun. The more the sun shines the more couples there are outside. It makes me a little bitter sometimes, but then I just get on with my life.