Friday, August 22, 2008

Death knell.

Sometimes, hearing multiple variations of the phrase "I have plans, but I'd love to still do something sometime" is much, much worse than hearing a simple NO. I can't possibly be the only one that feels this way.

10 comments:

Sara said...

But what if she doesn't want to say no? What if she really just has plans but would love to still do something sometime?

Crystalbell said...

I said this recently to someone. I really did have plans, but I think he's kinda bitter about it now. So, I think he may be a part of the club that doesn't want to hear that answer. Indeed you're not the only one.

Dainon. said...

I have a friend who told me about his adherence to the 2-strike rule ... as in, if she says she does want to do something another time, you try for that other time, and if she still gives you the runaround, you cut bait and run for the hills, no harm done. I think I'm going to have to implement that, yes.

Kari V. said...

Even coming from a married fart like myself, I agree with what everyone said. Don't count her out until she had said "NO" twice. She is probably just busy. It sucks feeling rejected doesn't it. I remember that all to well when I was a single girl. :)

brent said...

It's the classic cop out, and I share your loathing, my friend.

I've tried to immediately counter with, "Well, if you're busy this Friday, what about next Friday?" And if I still get the blow off, then it's uhbuhbye time. For me it's the one-and-a-half strike rule.

If a girl harbors any thought of working something out with a young man, I don't think it's unreasonable in any way to ask her to make such plans in advance. If she's THAT busy, then she's not going to make time for the guy, no?

TRIBU said...

I think sometimes a simple NO is difficult to say.

Dainon. said...

Nothing simple about it, you say? Eh, you're probably right about that.

aisy said...

i'd love to comment further on this blog post... but i have other plans.

plainoldsarah said...

i think aisy's comment is my favorite! i know that when i DO have plans, but i still would like to do something i try to offer a different date. i've also been known to invite the guy to something so that he knows i mean i'd like to do something - i come up with the something - but i'm impatient and i fear he may not ask again. i guess i've never had to hear that line that you don't like. maybe i'd hate to hear it too.

ram said...

who makes these rules? maybe it's like Calvinball and you just make the rules up as you go along.